Remembering My Worth:

The Journey Back to Myself

Self-worth used to be something I tried to earn.
I thought it lived in how well I cared for others, how much I achieved, or how little I complained.
For most of my life, worth looked like exhaustion disguised as kindness.

It wasn’t until everything fell quiet — the burnout, the overgiving, the people-pleasing — that I realised I didn’t actually know what it felt like to feel worthy without proving it.

The Illusion of Proving

The search for worth often begins in the external world.
For me, it started in the workplace — long hours, high performance, endless empathy.
In relationships, it looked like fixing others to feel needed.

It’s a subtle kind of self-abandonment — when you mistake being useful for being lovable.
And yet, the moment you stop performing, the silence is deafening.
That silence is where true self-worth starts to form.

When Awakening Strips the Roles Away

Awakening takes away your masks — not to expose you, but to free you.
When the titles, achievements, and roles dissolve, you’re left standing with the question:

Who am I without all this?

At first, it feels like loss.
But beneath the loss is truth — the kind of truth that doesn’t need validation.
It’s the quiet awareness that you were never the roles; you were always the energy that carried them.

ADHD, Autism, and the Layers of Worth

Living with ADHD and autism adds another layer to the self-worth journey.
We spend years hearing what’s “too much” or “not enough.”
We adapt, mask, and mould ourselves just to fit.

Unmasking felt terrifying at first — like walking into the world without armour.
But over time, I learned that authenticity is its own form of protection.
When you live from truth, you attract from truth. The people who see your real rhythm are the ones who stay.

Reclaiming Worth Through Simplicity

Now, self-worth for me is simple.
It’s making choices that honour my nervous system.
It’s saying no without apology.
It’s resting without guilt and creating without pressure.

Self-worth isn’t something I achieved; it’s something I remembered.
And every time I fall out of alignment, I remind myself — I am still enough, even when I pause.

Reflection

If shadow work shows you what you’ve been hiding, and ego work shows you what you’ve been protecting, then self-worth is where you finally stop running.

You begin to live from love rather than for it.

That’s the quiet miracle of self-worth — it doesn’t shout.
It simply exists, waiting for you to come home.

“Self-worth is remembering that nothing you’ve done or failed to do could ever change what you already are — worthy.”